Some folks are very lucky to have nice mother- in-laws. Far more however are not so fortunate!

I have a client who is almost 7 feet tall and as strong as a bear. A former street-tough cop who now runs a large contracting business, he has a loving and devoted wife and 5 lovely children who all adore him.

Yet when he speaks of his mother-in-law, he visibly cringes in fear!

I've come across this situation so many times I've often joked with my colleagues about making an "In-Law Defense" DVD course. I may yet do that...

Now let's say YOU have the "mother-in-law from hell," a suspicious and domineering mother-in-law who is constantly putting you down and causing strife and dis-ease in your family.

What do you do?

You turn the tables by "Reversing!"

The Reversing Technique is sheer beauty. I've had more than one person tell me that the Martial Mastery course would be worth it at ten times the price just for the Reversing Technique alone! Martial Mastery

Without going into the step-by-step detail you'll find on the 13 DVDs, I'll give you a few simple steps for reversing right here, okay?

For now, write down and remember this Master Key for all time:

Your Emotional Response Transfers Control To Your Attacker (or agitator or target).

The reason you are at the receiving end of your mother-in-law's stick is because your emotional response has set the standard for the relationship.

She snarled or made some subtly derogatory comment, and it hurt your feelings or angered you, and you've never recovered since.

Thus the cycle was established, thus the cycle perpetuated (continued) into the present day, most likely intensifying along the way.

To break the cycle, Reverse the cycle!

The next time she makes some hostile remark or innuendo, step back from your first emotional response.

Look down on her as you would an errant school-yard child and say "Clearly YOU have a problem. When you've solved YOUR personal problem I look forward to getting re-acquainated with you. Until then, your negativity and veiled hostility are not welcome here. There will be no further discussion on the matter," and show her the door.

She will probably backlash heavily at first and try to drop in unannounced, attack you through your wife, or simply ignore you altogether. Be as unchanging as a poker-players face when this happens.

Like a gyroscope, calmly and consistently enforce the Reversing as a cop would enforce a traffic light, and in a short while your mother-in-law will be respecting you and behaving, or simply leave you alone and be out of your life!

That wouldn't be so bad now, would it?

Now, if you feel this is too harsh, consider the countless marriages destroyed by the negative influence of relatives! These pressures can mount and send a man cheating, a wife drinking, and a broken family.

Sensory Acuity not only indicates the appropriate level of "harshness" but also exposes the fact that you've been submissive in this relationship for far too long.

The longer you've allowed it, the stronger it's gotten and the weaker you've become.

It's not a matter of being angry now. If you're angry, you have lost your patience and are not in control of your self.

It's a matter of love. Love for yourself, love for your wife, and yes, even love for your mother-in-law. Love is not a feeling, Love Is Responsibility. And the responsible thing to do is not always the easiest and most popular on a social level.

Many men have expressed concern about their wive's opinion of this, but of the wives of clients that I've spoken with, they all expressed great relief that their husband "finally took the bull by the horns" (leadership) and dealt with the problem head-on.

In most of these situations, I've found that the mother-in-law goes directly at the wife, who feels the pressure of obligation to her mother, while at the same time wants to remain devoted and supportive of her husband.

Cunningly, the mother-in-law takes advantage of this and puts pressure on her daughter to oppose a devoted and loving husband.

I had a client named Shaun whose mother-in-law would constantly say to her daughter (Julia), "So Julia, when are you moving back in? When are you leaving that loser?"

Shaun clearly loved his wife, and his wife clearly loved him, you couldn't ask for a better marriage, but the mother-in-law was a bitter widow who did not trust men and a psychotic control-freak.

She began to show up at their house when Shaun was away at work during the day. After a few warnings, Shaun finally put his foot down.

He told her in no uncertain terms that the ONLY way she could visit them was by setting an appointment with HIM, and if she showed up at any other time for any other reason, Julia would call the police to remove her.

She tryed the "guilt tactic" with Julia by balling and crying for sympathy, but it didn't work. Julia remained supportive of her husband and rooted in principle. Julia couldn't be tricked into an emotional response.

This was the moment of truth that finally got Julia's mother to stop haranguing them. It took an entire YEAR before Shaun's mother-in-law got back in touch with them (by calling Shaun at work) and finally relented and apologized.

She finally began to understand the strain she was putting on her daughter & her marriage, and actually became a better, kinder, happier person as a result of Shaun's Reversing Technique! She is now a warmly welcomed guest in their home.

So if needed, calmly and gently but firmly explain to your wife that you are going to handle the situation and that you need her to stand by you.

Do NOT ask her permission, just tell her what you're going to do and that you need her not to get between you and the mother-in-law, and not to try to be a diplomat.

Ask her to simply and quietly say to her mother "I love you and respect you, but I must stand by my husband. If you have anything to say about my husband you must say it TO HIM DIRECTLY."

By asking your wife to direct her mother to you only on any issue she has with or about you, the mother-in-law is prohibited from stressing your wife out with back-biting and slander, and must now face you directly.

Don't worry, your wife married you, she'll trust you if you're confident, calm and firm. What you're doing is not only for your benefit but for hers and your children as well.

Likewise men, you may need to take the same stand against your own parents if they are antagonistic or derogatory towards your wife. You've got to be just as strong and fair across the board for this to work perfectly (as it certainly can)

Self-defense is not only physical, it's mental and verbal as well, and when you calmly, solidly and non-emotionally lay down the rules, you'd be suprised how many will change their tune and start behaving appropriately.

Remember, many a schoolyard bully only became a best friend after you've given them a good solid ass-whoopin'.

Likewise by verbally/emotionally besting a meddlesome and domineering relative, you inadvertently gain their respect.

You see, some folks only respect those who thwart them. In fact, they are "testing" you and only by thwarting them do you pass the test.

You can use "Reversing" in almost ANY situation. What it does is cause a transference of energy and power.

By not responding emotionally as your opponent or agitator is accustomed to, it creates a vacuum wherein your opponent begins to doubt themselves. Thus, the tables are reversed!

This moment of doubt is your opening where you instantly take back control. You keep control by remaining rooted in your position, rather than sacrificing your position for the sake of a negative relationship.

The beauty of the Reversing technique is that it is instant.

Remember that whatever you tolerate will continue to grow, and that's why the problem has become so enormous and troublesome for you.

The Reversing Technique is the pin that pops the balloon and gives you back your personal power & peace!

Reversing is a simple technique that gives you instant power! How else can you use it in your life? Join my Inner Circle Membership RIGHT NOW and find out!

Yours in Wisdom & Courage,