Do Women Manipulate You?

Today we're going to talk about women who manipulate, how to detect them, and how to find the best quality of women.

Now before you get in an uproar and call me a sexist, let me openly state for the record that men can be just as manipulative. We'll get to them in a future article, okay?

Women of quality work hard to make sure they find men who aren't manipulative, and who can't be controlled or manipulated themselves.

They want a strong man. Not a macho muscle man, but a man with inner strength, a strong direction, vision and leadership qualities that she can rely on and trust in.

Most of what I'm sharing with you now I've learned directly from women through frank and honest conversations. It's fascinating having women tell you how manipulative women can be!

The uptake is this: there's a lesson here we can benefit from in just about any area of life. There is timeless wisdom in the Buddha's words (I paraphrase) "Desire is the root cause of all suffering".

The truth of this is that your DESIRE is your weakness that allows you to be manipulated. If we did not desire the approval and affections of women, it would be impossible for them to manipulate us.

Desire is attachment to an outcome. It's the same thing in the story of the monkey grasping a quarter in a bottle. He won't let go of the quarter he desires, and so his arm remains stuck in the bottle.

It's easy for a pretty girl to take advantage of the uninformed, desire-directed men who swarm about her, all competing for her attention, all willing to spend money on drinks, dining, trips, you name it, in an effort to win her favor.

But it's the guy standing alone confidently in the corner of the room, unaffected by it all and not part of the rat race, not part of the herd swarming around the troff, that a woman of quality would secretly feel most drawn to.

Because he has no attachment to the outcome, is rooted in inner strength and not led by lustful desire, her energy is drawn to him.

It is effortless, and requires no energy. In fact, the calmer and more relaxed you are, the better it works!

The girl who is not caught up in the easy attention and favors her charm can bring, but who instead is searching for a certain distinct quality of personal strength and depth in a man, this is the one worthy of your further interest in a future together.

The one who has used her charm for gain or control, and is used to having men fawn over her, has been self-trained to manipulate. She may be a virgin, she may be a church-going gal, or she may be a wild high-rolling party-chick. Don't kid yourself for a minute, manipulators come from every walk of life.

In the context of this discussion, a manipulator is someone who causes something, and cannot be directly identified as the one who caused it, taking advantage of others intentions and feelings for their own selfish purpose.

Often they are not conscious they are manipulating or even that they have a selfish purpose. Most people operate on "automatic."

Frequently and honestly self-evaluate your own behaviors and thought patterns to make sure you are not on "automatic" and manipulating others.

And remember the first rule of Mental Warfare Secrets "Your Emotional Response Transfers Control To Your Opponent/Target".

The first step is to retain personal order and centeredness by practicing the art of not responding emotionally.

Here's a great training tip: train yourself not to hearken when you hear a ringing phone. When you're sitting and the phone rings, you'll most likely feel an impulse to go pick it up. Instead, train yourself to now be affected at all and to ignore it. Let them leave a message, let them hang up. Either way is fine.

The point is that you are beginning to learn to control your response to a stimulus.

Pretty women are a Stimulus. They are accustomed to a Response. By not giving the expected response, you are breaking the rhythm and are able to intercept the ball - meaning "self-control"

And when you are truly in control of yourself, how can you be manipulated by another?

Unlocking the Secrets,

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